Pandemic Refugees

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Over the years I had thought that the nightmare of becoming a refugee in one’s own country, which I had faced once, will not occur again in my lifetime. But alas, I was proven wrong, as the worldwide pandemic which first set foot in India in January 2020 exploded multiple times- after the prolonged nationwide lock-down imposed on 24th March began being being eased in phases- till it became an uncontrollable ogre by the time September set in.

Even till the middle of August, it had not afflicted anyone whom I knew, not even in my beloved Delhi, which has been badly scarred by it. This is akin to what, sadly, has happened several times over millennia, when bloodthirsty hordes from across the Western frontiers descended on her, to deflower her, loot her fabled riches and mutilate her pristine beauty. This time, the marauders are not human, but an unknown virus, which has wrought incalculable damage on her, proving once again what the famous author Khuswant Singh used to say, that Delhi is an ageless whore, whom everyone likes to use, but no one wants to love.

However, towards the end of August, news of close friends, colleagues and their relatives falling prey to the pandemic, despite following all statutory guidelines as outlined by the government- but fortunately recovering- started trickling in from all corners of the country, including Tier 2 and Tier 3 cities and towns like Kota and Yamunanagar, although a major setback occurred when a close acquaintance whom I had known for more than a decade succumbed to the wily virus in the North East. I was heartbroken. Alok was a thorough gentleman, with impeccable virtues.

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Obviously, the virus does not distinguish between good and bad karma.

Things were still distant, till a case was reported from one of the flats in a tower in the society in which I live (not the tower in which I reside though). Despite the scare, life went on as usual, because as per government protocol, only the affected patient was put under ‘home isolation’, although we did face some inconvenience as movement of domestic helps was restricted inside the society for a week. But the patient recovered comfortably, and normalcy returned to the society.

But all this was too good to last as cases in Delhi surged to unprecedented levels and crossed the threshold of 4000 fresh infections per day on a sustained basis, and the cumulative figure smashed the ominous two lacs mark. Each day, I watched in anguish, as fresh and damning data was put on air for hours on end by sundry news channels, made all the more alarming by over the top television anchors in some cases.

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That is when all hell broke loose.

In quick succession multiple cases were reported from the tower in which I stay, with my wife and our fur baby of nine years, Snowy. Desperation hit me like a bolt of lightning, jarring my already choppy nerves, exacerbated on seeing the team of government officials who came to assess the situation. There were whispers of the tower being sealed and declared a ‘containment’ zone, which was akin to a total lock-down, but perhaps even more stringent. Our major concern was Snowy, who has to be taken out for her walks on a regular basis. After a bit of dillydallying, I gathered some courage and talked to one of the more benevolent looking members of the team who was browsing at the layouts of the tower and the society. I confided my concerns and fears with her, and asked for possible solutions. She said in a comforting voice that they would advise all residents like me to shift to an alternate location, if feasible, for the duration of the containment period, which would be fourteen days from the date of the last reported case. Thanking her profusely, and with sweat already dripping from my brow like a waterfall in the September heat, I raced along the stairs at whatever speed I could garner, and shared the distressing news with my best half, who, in all circumstances, is a woman of immense courage and fortitude.

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We confabulated on the options available before us, and zeroed to the best one in the ensuing circumstances- to move to my in-law’s 🏠 for some days at least. We packed our bags at breakneck speed, and within no time I was loading them into the car. After a while, as I pressed the pedal of the car, and the three pandemic refugees moved out of the gates of the society onto the main road, I rued the fact that my worst fears had sadly come true.

Photo courtesy my wife’s cousin outside my in-laws house taken a few years ago in better times. This was to be our elite ‘refugee camp’ for a week.

In the first week of September 2020, I had become a refugee, once again, in my own country.

The first time was on 1st November 1984, when, as a hapless teenager, I witnessed my completely innocent and law abiding family comprising my father-a senior Central Government Officer, my mother- a Senior teacher in a Delhi Government school and our fur baby, Tipsy, become refugees within a few harrowing minutes as we were hounded out of our house by bloodthirsty, marauding mobs in the anti-Sikh pogrom that saw the massacre and much more of 3000 innocent Indian citizens in Delhi over a period of three days. The irony being that we belong to a family of mixed Hindus and Sikhs- evident in the family tree-as was the norm in earlier days, particularly in the West Panjab of the pre-partition subcontinent from where our family belongs, to a town called Saiyyad Kasran in district Rawalpindi, now in Pakistan. Of the three siblings, my paternal grandfather was the only Sikh, his two sisters were married to Hindus and my maternal grandmother’s only sister was married to a Hindu, while she was married to a Sikh. After an initial lull, subsequent to the Earth shattering setback of partition, when everyone was nurturing a deeply wounded psyche , the intricate web of Hindu-Sikh marriages became all the more robust (at least in my family, which has always been egalitarian and believed in the enduring brotherhood of the human race) starting with the 70s onward, and withstood the dark days of militancy in Panjab and the subsequent events. Thereafter, with great alacrity, the family jumped countries and continents, and now we are a truly global enterprise, with Americans, British, Dutch, French, Germans and maybe some more nationalities in our midst.

At this point though, all this may seem rather redundant and off the point, as the only thing of significance is that I am alive to tell the tale, as we were evacuated in the nick of time by our brave and fearless Hindu neighbors.

Daddy was escorted from the rear door of our house by the venerable Chadha Uncle (Sr.) – Khatri Punjabis like my family who had survived the horrors of partition, Mummy went to the adjoining house which belongs to a family hailing from what is now the Khyber-Pakhtunwa province of Pakistan, Tipsy safely ensconced in her arms and I was escorted (also from the rear door) by one of my best friends, Sanjay, who belongs to a family of Brahmins, with roots for generations in Old Delhi, and whose father is a staunch supporter of RSS. It is amply clear that the three families which evacuated the three of us represent a vibrant spectrum of the Hindu, or rather, Indian society.

It was only towards late evening, when the skyline was filled with thick black smoke and the silent autumn air was repeatedly shattered with the war cry of the mobs baying for blood, that the three, or rather four of us finally assembled under one roof, in the first floor of the Chadha family bungalow, where we were to stay cocooned for the next five days, and from where I was to witness the most brutal and inhuman massacre of innocent passersby (who were still foolish enough to think that no harm will come to them), and those Sikhs, whose houses were ransacked and looted, before they were also killed.

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The Chadhas- Senior Uncle, Junior Uncle and Bhaiya- the son of Junior Uncle- all had nerves of steel, and heart full of compassion. Not for a moment did they they think of us as a liability, as someone they were harboring at grave risk to their own safety, as the mobs often ventured too close to the house, loaded with bottles of kerosene, LPG cylinders and ready to burn tyres, trying to get a whiff of elusive Sikhs. Instead, we were treated with utmost respect and courtesy, to the point of being VIPs, and assured, time and again, especially me, as I repeatedly suffered panic attacks, that no matter what happened, no harm will come to us. And like all men and women of commitment, they kept their word, till we were finally evacuated to relative safety after five interminable days in a foreign mission car which was sent by my maternal Uncle (where he used to work) to fetch us.

We were to stay in his spacious bungalow for a further period of ten days, and it was finally after a gap of one horrendous fortnight that we could shift back to our house- I was still very still jittery, but nonetheless, thankful to almighty, and again, our immediate Hindu neighbors, because of whom ours was the only house belonging to Sikhs in the entire neighborhood which was left unscathed , even after the untold mayhem and plunder had finally abated. Although I was to hear the roar of marauding mobs and shrieks of victims being butchered for months on end, at-least on the night of 16th, November 1984, the first we spent in our house after I had been a refugee for fifteen days (for Daddy this was the second occasion, as he had passed through the hell of partition) I silently prayed to God, ‘Please! never make me go through the experience of being a refugee again, in my own homeland, for whatever reason’.

My prayers held on for 36 long years.

Till one day, the pandemic struck, and changed it all.

Mercifully, my second stint as a refugee ended prematurely, in seven days, as it became apparent within the next two-three days of the health officials visit that the tower, as initially speculated, would not be ‘contained’ for fourteen days and only the specific flats, with affected patients, would be put in ‘home isolation’, and all other residents would be allowed normal movement with stipulated precautions. I was ecstatic, even as I had started savoring the sumptuous meals ma-in-law used to ‘lay’ in our ‘honor’, which I often used to down with some stiff Vodka taken surreptitiously, not wanting to undermine her abundant hospitality or draw the ire of my best half. Finally, after seven days, we returned home, and as I took a deep and satisfying sip of my premium scotch , I once again repeated to almighty what I had said on 16th November, 1984, ‘Please! never make me go through the experience of being a refugee again, in my own homeland, for whatever reason’.

This time there was an addition “And please, put an end to this Godforsaken pandemic, which is now devouring people by the millions’.

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  • PS: There are no family snaps of 1984 available with me which can be shared with my venerable readers.

48 responses to “Pandemic Refugees”

  1. meetukamal Avatar
    meetukamal

    Very well expressed!
    Each and every word in your article has such a deep meaning for many of us.
    The article has brought in front of my eyes the horror experienced in 1984.The mob moving around in our locality with burning torches in their hands, the cloth for which they had taken by breaking into an cloth shop of a Sikh family. Thankfully, by the grace of Waheguru, we got spared.
    The pandemic which seems to stay for the time being, leaving its brutal marks on some families is truly creating horrors.
    I hope we soon have an article from you when all are relieved of this unpredictable situation.

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    1. APS Malhotra Avatar

      Thanks Tavi for your appreciation of the post…and moreover for having taken time from your busy schedule to go through it….and yes..let us pray to waheguru ji that you get to read my article in the post Pandemic era…

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  2. Babita Saxena Avatar
    Babita Saxena

    Very well documented. Read it over and over.
    What happened in the year 1984 was an act of a few ‘inhumane humans’ who have left behind the scars for posterity. Their beastliness came to the fore. They were like monkeys who when irked, vent their anger on innocents.
    I vividly remember sheltering a small Sikh child at home and how eager we were to make him feel comfortable!

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    1. APS Malhotra Avatar

      Thanks ☺️ Babita for having gone through the post….it is indeed a pleasure to receive the support of friends like you for my writings…it motivates me to write more and maybe better… grateful

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  3. rana3287 Avatar
    rana3287

    You had shared your experiences of 1984 riots with me when we were in Delhi. It’s nice to see that you have put it in words. People in Delhi really suffered at that time. I can realize the pain you and other Delhites went through.

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    1. APS Malhotra Avatar

      Thanks brother for having given your views on my post……grateful….

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  4. postrose4 Avatar
    postrose4

    Very well described sir

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    1. APS Malhotra Avatar

      Thanks for your appreciation please…….

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  5. vandanadu Avatar
    vandanadu

    This one is both lighthearted and serious ….as this time it would have been more of a short vacation visit to pamper yourself in this otherwise boring lock down.

    Vodka I don’t like it has to be single malt 😀 so can share the pain…..

    But well narrated AP…

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    1. APS Malhotra Avatar

      Thanks dear friend, first of all thanks for having taken time from your extremely busy schedule to go through the post, and then for the appreciation of the narration…….as far as Vodka or single malt or rum go, well i am game for anything, anytime…..cheers

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  6. Sangeeta Avatar
    Sangeeta

    Nicely written .
    Yes these r hard times . This too shall pass

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    1. APS Malhotra Avatar

      Hi buddy! thanks for your appreciation of the post and yes……this too shall pass…..Insha allah…..

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  7. prasadvsv Avatar

    Exhaustive account of two major events, narrated with flair and poignancy. A good read that reminded me of the 1984 events that I observed from 1000s of miles away from my hostel room, some shuddering images that still flash when I think about that event.

    As for the current situation, yes, we indeed are refugees in our own homes, trying to stave off the virus and stay safe. Beginning to love your style of writing, keep it up! AP .

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    1. APS Malhotra Avatar

      Gratitude sir! it is indeed an honor that you appreciate my writing skills……it is nothing less than a morale booster for me…..Moreover, thanks for taking time from your busy schedule to go through the post……

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  8. sanjaymadaneok Avatar
    sanjaymadaneok

    Dear APS,

    Very good blog👍

    Being a refugee is like being ‘caged’ and put into a zoo.

    God from time to time shakes his people and measures their endurance! His tests and examinations does not follow guidelines…. this current pandemic is in way ‘out of syllabus’ paper and hence sadly many are failing!

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    1. APS Malhotra Avatar

      Dear friend……first of all thanks for having liked the blog…..like always your reviews are precise and analytical and hit the nail on the head with precision; i am also grateful that despite your busy schedule you are still able to take time out to go through my writings from time to time…..

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  9. dtnaturelover Avatar
    dtnaturelover

    Very well narrated horrifying experiences of author in his childhood, which has resurfaced in this era of pandemic. This time it is affecting each and everyone’s life directly or indirectly. Very well written and presented with pictures.

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    1. APS Malhotra Avatar

      Thanks buddy for your appreciation of the post. Yourself being a photographer of great eminence, no wonder you have noticed the pictures. It is an initial experiment for me…..

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  10. sushovan1968 Avatar
    sushovan1968

    Nice commentary of the horific 1984 riots. Your snap with whisky reminded me of the legendary late khuswant singh. You should come out with a book train to mount abu 😄

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    1. APS Malhotra Avatar

      Khushwant was truly inspirational to a whole generation of writers… Book 📚 is in the pipeline….

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  11. Sandeep Mathur Avatar
    Sandeep Mathur

    Too good . Very well written. Still remember the situation in 84. Too scary to define.

    Take care

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    1. APS Malhotra Avatar

      Thanks buddy for your appreciation of the blog…..grateful

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  12. rummna Avatar
    rummna

    Relatable on many counts. And, empathetic.

    Your refugee status, then and now, steeped in sardonic wordplay does bring out one stark fact. At some point, most of us have or may become refugees in our own country :((
    Bitter truth.

    I remember your chapters relating to the pain of those early years in your life and your family-plight in ‘Dilliz Boys,’ – an honest, open account of your growing up years.

    I particularly like the images & photographs that you have shared with the article…like the one with your wife at the elite refugee camp gate!

    I shudder to think of the iconic shadowed yet unique smile of Monalisa, forever masked! For, what is the Vinci painting without That Smile !

    From the heart, v.enjoyable!

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    1. APS Malhotra Avatar

      Thanks Madam! as pointed by you, we may all have to become refugees in the times to come as we have to combat multiple evils like climate change, social inequality and population explosion. The experiment with selection of snaps is fairly new for me and I am grateful that you have noticed it . As for your finding the post enjoyable to read, it is really an honour for me…and last but not the least, thanks for having taken time from your busy schedule to have gone through my writings…..

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  13. nsanzagiri Avatar

    APS, really well written piece with a natural flow to it as your thoughts take you on a journey of your own.
    One point of contention, though. I feel your prayers from 1984 are still holding true and hopefully will hold true for next hundreds of years, because this time, although you had to take temporary refuge away from your home, you were not a refugee in your homeland. This time around, we are all victims of a pandemic that knows no man made boundaries like religion, gender, wealth or nation states. We are all hiding from each other feeling safe in a shell of our own making.

    I can only imagine the pain you and your family must have gone through during those times. The pain that changed a ‘Bakshi Arvinder Pal Singh Malhotra’ into an APS Malhotra. For me you will always be my Arvinder, with whom I saw an English movie in a theatre for the first time.

    Nirmal

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    1. APS Malhotra Avatar

      Thanks Nirmal….one of my best friends of decades for your appreciation of the post.
      I agree with you, of the pandemic cutting across all boundaries and brining the entire human race to its knees like never before. Yes, I am still Arvinder, the name bestowed on me lovingly by my parents, although over time, i have cut it to APS Malhotra, then APS and finally in the university to AP.
      Thanks for having taken time from your extremely busy schedule to go through the post and share your views for the first time. I am really honored.

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  14. goyalsac Avatar
    goyalsac

    Dear APS Ji, kudos to you for such wonderful narration straight from the heart. I could relate to the situation being your neighbour. I share the Pain of being like a refugee in my own country/city.

    I think this blog will be read over & over in future long after we forget COVID. This will remind us to be happy and enjoy life because such situations too can happen again (though we wish it never happens in our life span).

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    1. APS Malhotra Avatar

      Dear Sachin, thanks for praising my narration skills 🙏 although you have erred in calling your self my neighbour, you are my younger brother who has always stood by me 😅..I concur with you to be happy and enjoy Life as the times are and are likely to be unpredictable in the future as well….

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      1. goyalsac Avatar
        goyalsac

        Thank you Bhaisaab,I acknowledge my mistake and hereby correct it.

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  15. Debashis Naik Chennai Avatar
    Debashis Naik Chennai

    Dear AP
    your comparison to pandemic is a novel idea. But I feel (may be I am wrong ) being refugees of the Ist type is more miserable and difficult to endure than this pandemic one. As more than 95 percent are able to come out if it. But the kind of Trauma of 47 or 84 one if has gone through will give a SCAR which even Shatrughan sinha won’t be proud of!

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    1. APS Malhotra Avatar

      Thanks Debu, for your balanced and well articulated review which only you are capable of giving….I Fully concur with you, although by and large I have forgotten the history of those terrible times…. although not forgiven the kingpins, most of whom are either dead or irrelevant.. anyway I am no one to dispense justice, as almighty keeps a tab of good and bad karma

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  16. ajayjoshi25gmailcom Avatar
    ajayjoshi25gmailcom

    Well I feel 1984 was an act of devil, but covid 19 is an act of God to admonish the collective sins of humanity. But alas upon whom the spectre falls in either case feel the cold hands of destiny feel for them….and that tragedy is painted vividly. The sense of despair is unmistakable in both cases

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  17. pknayar1970 Avatar
    pknayar1970

    Oh ! So very well written and relived AP !!

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    1. APS Malhotra Avatar

      Thanks brother for appreciating my writing skills…….gratitude…..

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  18. mmalhotra77 Avatar
    mmalhotra77

    Good one. Once you start living on your own, the thought of having to go back to your parents’ house for a prolonged duration of time seems unfavorable.

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    1. APS Malhotra Avatar

      Thanks meri jaan…for having gone through the blog despite your series of tiring night shifts..nice, independent thoughts.

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  19. Narendra Bhardwaj Avatar
    Narendra Bhardwaj

    Nightmare can happen to anyone , forget all and always see the life in a beautiful way, it comes thru our parents and children. Enjoy the present dost. Got emotional whenever the word refugee comes in front of me.Kal ko kalpnik samazh aur present ko gift , this is the better way to live the life as kingsize.

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    1. APS Malhotra Avatar

      Thanks bro for comments… grateful

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  20. Abrar Sheriff M Avatar
    Abrar Sheriff M

    Harsh Reality the Pandemic touching about 55 lakh cases in India. Refugee the word conjures up memories of displaced persons of all ilk. Post Independence, tolerance levels breached with riots against Sikhs, Pandits, Muslims and waiting for Good Days to arrive. Virus can be eradicated by the Reserch in laboratories but the human beings can only be cured if heart is pure. Till then the brotherhood looks elusive.

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    1. APS Malhotra Avatar

      Thanks brother 👍 for your comments, which I must say have been put together after a lot of pondering at the issues on hand and sensitivity…. grateful…

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  21. I S Khanna Avatar

    My dear Malhotra. Your rekindling the horror of genocide of Sikhs post assassination of Indra Gandhi rendering these families refugees in their own houses with the onslaught of corona pandemic in some flats of our society necessating self isolation is unfortunately far fetched.
    Even though you have tried to draw similarity of becoming yet again a refugee on this account, the gravity of these two situations is polls apart.
    Notwithstanding the above, your effort to describe the dilemma is worth reckoning your writing skills.

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    1. APS Malhotra Avatar

      Your point of view is well accepted Uncle….I only wanted to show that some people, not only in our society, but in other places as well , are moving to safe places on a temporary basis wherever feasible…and thought of these people as refugees due to the pandemic… undoubtedly, as pointed out by you, the gravity of the situation and the circumstances in 1984 and 2020 are not comparable in any way, but then every human suffering has an underling feeling of commanality…. grateful for having taken time from your busy schedule to go through the blog and like always appreciating my writing skills…

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    2. APS Malhotra Avatar

      Moreover, Khanna uncle,I have written this from a purely personal perspective. You will concur that each person reacts differently to the same situation and so it is not necessary that how A reacts to pandemic will be the same as B reacts to the identical situation…

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  22. Gopi Krishna Avatar
    Gopi Krishna

    Too good APS

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    1. APS Malhotra Avatar

      Thanks buddy for having gone through the blog and your words of appreciation…. grateful

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  23. yaserhusain Avatar
    yaserhusain

    Thanks for sharing Sir!

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  24. Rajiv Dutta Avatar
    Rajiv Dutta

    Very well written, the pain has been expressed in such a manner that reader is able to identify with all the people who have undergone the horror.
    Was able to hold on till the last line, thanks to the powerful flow of words.

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    1. APS Malhotra Avatar

      Thanks Rajiv for your words of appreciation. That I was able to hold your interest in the blog to some extent is really an honor for me.. grateful for having taken time from your busy schedule to go through the blog

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